In order to have the life we say we want, we have to separate our real point of view from negative influences from our past, from people around us or from society at large.To do this, we can engage in a process known as differentiation, which can help us to distinguish our real wants, goals and desires from undesirable outside influences. Robert Firestone wrote in his book , “Differentiation is a universal struggle that all human beings face if they wish to fully develop themselves as individuals.” Firestone outlines four essential steps to the process of differentiation that can help individuals live free of imagined limitations.
He was disappointed in himself and in his performance.
Most of us have experienced that pivotal peak of pain, anger or frustration in which we want to scream “I hate my life.” Yet, the feeling that a dark cloud has specifically settled over us and our experiences can feel pretty isolating. It’s a matter of how hardy or emotionally resilient we are. We can implement tools that help shape how we see and experience the world around us.
The truth is, no matter how singled out or overwhelmed we feel, and no matter what area we are struggling in, we are not alone. We can uncover what’s at the root of our unhappiness and create a life that has personal meaning to us, a life that reflects our unique goals and desires.
Matt and Suzy later appeared on season three of The Biggest Loser in America, and also flew to Australia, along with Seth, to make an appearance on the first season of the Australian version of the show.
Prior to the start of season four, a special episode was shown revisiting past contestants to see if they kept the weight off.
One night, he was on the couch watching and eating a bag of chips. “I tried all the diets,” said Suzy, who is a hairdresser.