Back in the day while living on a shoestring budget as a student, I would be overawed when confident, sometimes, older men with huge salaries and power would ask Don’t get me wrong I didn’t feel ugly (though I used to criticize myself) and believe it or not, we had stuff in common.
But deep down I suffered from the nagging feeling that I did not measure up.
Even when a woman is ugly, she can still bag a top notch man, as long as she has similarities to him (i.e background, education, career, values, wealth) and her strengths make up for his weaknesses.
Because believing a man is out of your league is the first tell tale sign, that you have placed him on a pedestal, and granted him superiority in your mind, which is bound to make you feel inferior.
Let me guess, he oozes charm, he’s got more charisma in his pinky finger than the rest of us have in our whole body, he’s handsome, he’s a hit with the ladies….*sigh* we’ve all been there.
In all my years of dating men, if there’s one thing that’s stuck out like a sore thumb in a man, it’s his insecurity.
At least in all the men I’ve dated, more than half of them were insecure. What’s more surprising is that I’m not the only one who’s had to deal with insecure men.
Not growing up with a mother, really jaded my mentality, around the qualities I have to offer a partner as a woman, therefore I would simply compare their success markers versus my success markers, and surmise that my achievements were nowhere near a match for theirs.