But statistically, once you consider variables like age, occupation, belief systems and economic status, this seems super low.“When it comes to dating here, I don’t really play well with others,” joked Fiona Fitzgerald. I can’t tell you how many times I meet a guy and he says, ‘You mean you don’t eat chicken? ’ and then I just have to laugh and say, ‘No, if it has eyes or parents, I don’t eat it.’” Fitzgerald has lived on the island off and on for 15 years.He seemed pretty normal (good job, intelligent, funny).His first question on sitting down with our drinks was whether I was up for anal.You deserve to date someone who treats you like the goddess you are, period.If he wants you to change (by dressing differently, blowing off your friends, or drinking and partying when that's not your scene) that's a sign he doesn't really like you for , and you deserve someone much better. If a guy really likes you, he should let you know, and if you're in a relationship, that shouldn't even be a question. If it's not so clear, that's a red flag that merits a serious conversation.I ask her how she’s doing and then in an effort to empower her say, “You should start dating again,” to which she first laughs/chokes on her wine and then replies, “Date on Hilton Head? It sucks dating here.” Growing up on the island and having gone the fairytale route of marrying my favorite neighbors’ son (and subsequently also my parents’ best friends’ son), I am struck by her response. Eighty-five percent of the population is married, while 15 percent are single.
Numerically, this seems high—if you are a single male, you have over 3,000 available women to court.
On the must-have list: a dream job, famulous friends, cool hobbies, and a killer dating life.
But between work, family, friends, the gym, and volunteering, we don't all have the extensive social networks we simultaneously idealize and expect, the kind where we meet friends of friends at parties and dinners—a smorgasbord of potential partners who conveniently come with the implicit endorsement of someone trusted.
In her 20s, she sailed through the local dating pool and married an islander.
Now divorced, she’s in her 30s and once again navigating through “bachelorette-dom.” But this time she’s dating not just as a single woman, but as a single mother who works fulltime and has high standards when it comes to finding companionship.
Or maybe you talk about your big dreams of running your own company one day and he laughs you off like he doesn't believe you can do it. In the long run, you'll be happiest and most successful with someone who has total faith in your abilities by your side.