Here is a comprehensive list of dos and don'ts that will help every woman conduct an e-courtship safely and successfully; find and keep the interest of suitable mates; and save time, energy, and potential heartache by weeding out dead wood. I am disgusted by the encouragement of deceit throughout.The Rules for Online Dating takes women through the process -- step by step, Rule by Rule -- to the ultimate goal: a relationship based on mutual attraction, interest, and respect. The entire book is about pretending not to be interested, whether or not you are.DON’T naively assume that his photo is as up-to-date and accurate as yours.We accepted a date with a guy whose head shot looked perfectly human, even normal. For instance: DON’T get taken in by corny, overused come-on lines like, “Looking to spoil the lady of my dreams with flowers and candlelit dinners.” And beware of perfect strangers who promise to “snuggle with you in front of the fireplace” and “enjoy sunset strolls on the beach.” These guys have one thing on their minds. It’s all too easy to scroll through Internet profiles, selecting the Brad Pitt look-alikes and bypassing the rest.
Here’s our crash course on the DOs and DON’Ts of cyberdating.But though e-mail and Net-based dating services have revolutionized the dating landscape, they've created their own pitfalls and challenges.Women need new strategies that will improve their chances of capturing Mr. Boasting the same time-tested formula and romantic spirit that made The Rules an international bestseller and launched thousands of women down the path to committed relationships, The Rules for Online Dating shows all women -- regardless of age, status, or computer savvy -- how to use electronic communication to relate to men in a way that maintains self-esteem and leads to a healthy relationship. I have a work friend who keeps giving me her "Rules" books to read, so I read to oblige.Expecting a Cameron Diaz look-alike, he was shocked to meet a morbidly obese woman in a moo-moo. On the other hand, we’ve dated men who were relieved and delighted that we simply looked like our pictures.(And believe us, we’re not Cameron.) They were grateful enough to stay through the crème brulée.We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.