To have a successful relationship, you need to be open to creating change.And it is often the changes you make with yourself that give you the best results in your relationship.He said he didn’t want to be in a relationship and now he’s flaunting his latest. The fact that you’re asking this says that you still want him even though he’s demonstrated that he doesn’t see the value in you or being with you, plus that you’re obsessing about him and the relationship, and that you don’t want to move on because often when we ask these questions, they are with regard to men who probably aren’t worthy of our time.He said he wasn’t going to choose you over his wife/girlfriend and now he’s got a replacement Other Woman. Now, I’m not going to say that it’s not a question that doesn’t run through many a person’s mind but when it becomes damn near an obsession and it prevents you from letting go and focusing on you, something is very wrong.
We want to give our hearts, mind and very soul to a man, and meld together into a perfect relationship.He said he didn’t want to get married and now he’s engaged or married. If you are obsessing about the relationship, him, the who, what, why’s and when’s, the shoulda, woulda, couldas, and the can’t, won’t, don’ts, you are either in standstill or regressing into the past because You are putting yourself at the centre of his decision to be with someone else or his actions after you. It’s not about her because you are two different people and the likelihood is that if he was effed up when you were with him and he’s taken up with someone else, he hasn’t changed which means that there is something about the relationship with her that let’s him believe that he can continue being himself.He said he wouldn’t leave his wife and now he has…for a different girl. In reality, that’s giving yourself too much credit for impact, and him too much credit for actually having that much connection to his thoughts! You also need to remember that with men who habitually mess women around, they ALWAYS blow hot at first which means that when you are losing your mind obsessing over him, he’s going through the same hot phase that he treated YOU to at the beginning.not trying to acquire a relationship or boyfriend as if they were trying to acquire a new handbag or pair of heels.If you want a great relationship, then focus on having a great relationship.We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want.